There's a lot to be said about working in alignment... 

With yourself, your goals, and your creator.

That's my story, anyway. 

See, I spent countless years - maybe even decades - out of alignment.

I was overworked, stressed and highly anxious nearly everyday.

I'd jump up every single day and and run right into the hustle. It's interesting, because hustle is one of my brand terms + values.

But - it's having hustle vs. living in the hustle.

We don't want to be hustling, but rather have a hustle mentality. It's about grit, drive, passion. 
Not about burning yourself out.

And that's the growth I've experienced from creating alignment with myself, my goals + my Creator.

How I create alignment with myself...

Internal alignment comes from being crystal clear on what I want for myself.

It doesn't come from what someone else says I want, or what someone wants of me.

Not from societal pressures or fears of how I'll be perceived.

But true internal alignment for me has come from being perfectly happy with my truth of how I want to live - and pursuing it. 

The idea of doing that in the past terrified me, because I was so caught up in what others thought of me, it was crippling. While I've always been authentically myself, there were definite tendencies to go outside of that authenticity and please the crowd - over choosing happy.

In creating alignment and I've given myself the grace to give zero f*cks about how others think about the way I live my life. 
And the quickest + simplest way to get there...was to realize that everyone with an opinion is living their lives exactly how they want to, okay?

How I create alignment with my goals...

Have I mentioned that I was stuck in the hustle?

Yeah. I have goals, dreams, hopes, desires. I want it all, and so often I'd feel like time was going by too fast and with everything I did have - it still wasn't enough. That mindset was actually keeping me from experiencing so much joy in the moment - and beyond that, crippling my progress.

See, the more I thought I didn't have time, guess what...

Right, the less time I had.

Self fulfilling prophecy. 

I'm going to go out on a limb and say I bet you're doing one or all of these things, too. That could be knowingly or unknowingly. I have a little test...let's play a game!

Think about the goals you have right now.

Ask yourself, is this what I want - or is it inspired by something I've seen, something someone else has or is doing and I just like the way that success looks on them?

Is that what I actually want, or is it something I think I'm supposed to want? Like...your parents put you on a specific path as a child and expect that's who you'll become and what you're supposed to do.

When I think about the path to getting there...what does that actually look like for me?

Is it attainable based on where I am now?

Does the journey to get there excite me?

Do I have those skills or can I acquire them in the necessary timeline?

What does that life look like and do I want to sacrifice time, expenses or the effort to have it for real for real...?

Do I look happy in my vision of life as I imagined it?

If any of those questions gave you pause, I'm willing to bet there's no alignment with that specific goal.

There are simply external factors that inundate our lives and make us think we want a life that we actually don't want.

A few months back, some of my associates and I were approached about getting our own reality tv show. My honest first reaction...hell no.

I mean, I did put a bit more thought into it and we all got together to discuss the pros + cons and were definitely considering it.

But I've worked with reality stars for years. I know the negative impact that having so much access into your personal world can create.

The thought of being judged nonstop, eyes on you all the time, and others creating your story and having an opinion on everything is terrifying. There's nothing appealing to me about what I've seen reality stars do and become. Again, perceived because of what I've witnessed edited down + combined for the most dramatic effects.

I knew that this show would not be in alignment with the goals I say I have for myself.

I'm not interested in fame for the sake of fame, or even the money that comes along with it.

I want peace, partnership with my dreamguy, travel and adventure together...

A reality show doesn't align.

When you're thinking about aligning with your goals...pay attention to the feelings you feel when you say what you think you want...in your head, and out loud.

How I create alignment with my creator...

This one right here...

One thing about me - I'm gonna make plans + stay on go!

I'm gonna make it happen no matter what.

I will push forward, try and try, lose sleep - anything to be that winner I talk about.

The thing about pushing is...we don't have to!

The more I understand His Word, the more aligned and at peace I feel.

The more I understand my path and trust that He is with me. Right beside me, holding my hand when I need it and when I don't, hugging me, loving me, protecting me and providing for me. When I really let go of trying and forcing on my own, I saw very clearly that all the spinning I'd done had all been in vain. I worked harder, stressed morning, afternoon, and night. I cried. 

Isolated myself, then connected with all the wrong people...and finally, I gave in and submitted myself to my Creator. 

And everything changed.

I realized I wasn't in alignment with the highest path possible for myself.

Because of that, nothing was coming together for me even though it appeared to the outside world, and even to me at the time, that I had it all.

I wasn't trusting in my Creator. I was focused on self.

And literally, the moment I got that reality, I mean when it really sank in... I felt free.

I'm still me - with the mouth of a sailor at times. Um, most times, hehe...

I am still learning and there are still moments where I feel worry or frustrations here and there.

But it doesn't linger.

I know I'm in alignment with my Creator.

And so, I vibrate so much higher.

As I say regularly...I'm no guru. I don't have all the answers. But what I do know is what I know!

Life experience, doing the work, feeling the pain, then seeing the triumphs and my heart's desires come to reality...none of it was accidental.

If you want to learn how I've done that for myself, join me in the 7 day This Chapter Is Called challenge, and let's keep growing + glowing together!

Love you. Mean it.